Is it sexist to say women should grow old gracefully, apparently Oscar winning actress Julianne Moore has called the phrase totally sexist and judgemental.

She says ageing can’t be stopped so why tell women how to do it?

Well, as a man I am very glad to have a woman assist with regard to this very thorny issue, never an easy one for a man especially when one finds oneself faced with awkward questions something along the lines of ‘don’t you think I look young for my age?’

I now know I don’t have to be anywhere near as tactful as I have been previously, where I might have answered something along the lines of ‘yes, of course you do and how gracefully you are achieving the continual bloom of youth’.

I can now respond, ‘no, you have let yourself go to wrack and ruin, you look dreadful’, and in the case of an American actress one might add, ‘it’s only a matter of time before you are playing toothless hags, like the wicked witch of the west’.

This sounds a little harsh to me I know but I wouldn’t want to appear sexist, myself I shall just continue to grow old disgracefully.

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About The Diary of a Country Bumpkin

I am a retired actor, although to be honest I only retired because I wasn't getting any work and the option of becoming an unemployed actor/waiter at my age was ludicrous, especially as my waiting skills are non-existent. Having said I’m retired, I don’t think there really is such a thing as a retired actor for I am still available for work, I just don’t have an agent or any connections with regards to obtaining any worthwhile work. I have over the years done student films when there is nothing else available, always low paid (if at all) the only incentive was always the promised copy of the finished film for your show reel which nine times out of ten always failed to materialise. I spent many years looking after my aged mother who had dementia, hence the lack of acting work but shortly after her death I was lucky enough to run into an ex-girlfriend of many years ago and our romance blossomed once again, resulting in us getting married in 2013. My move to the countryside inspired me to write The Diary of a Country Bumpkin which tells of my continuing dilemmas in dealing with the rigors of the countryside from the unexpectedly large number of pollens, fungal moulds and hay products waiting to attack the unsuspecting townie. I enjoy writing, see my play Dulce Et Decorum Est Pro Patria Mori on The Wireless Theatre Company, The Plays Wot I Wrote and The Battle of Barking Creek both available on and am very fond of classic cars so my ideal occupation would be acting in a film I had written set in the 1930s/40s, we live in hopes. I am delighted to say that since venturing to the countryside where space is not quite the premium it is in town, I have due to the availability of two double garages acquired more classic cars to form a small collection the pride of which are a 1947 Bentley Mk VI and a 2000 Bentley Arnage. My various blogs and websites are continually evolving and I’m sure that by following the appropriate links you will find something which will edify or amuse.
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  1. Getting old is whether you feel it or not. I would be boxing, and lifting if I didn’t have the tears in my rotator cuff 🥊🥊

  2. SueW says:

    I am so sick of being told what I can and cannot say. And have you noticed that those responsible are usually women?

    I’m not sure who the actress is! But it sounds as though she has forgotten that some women also have other women as their wives and partners. I’m sure they would also prefer the other half to grow old gracefully too! Though not entirely sure what she means. Depends on the definition of graceful.

    Is she referring to a sixty-year-old who acts like a teenager or a fifty-year-old who allows her hair to turn grey and sports a moustache? Neither are aging gracefully.

    Let’s imagine I am a man or a woman who has a woman for a partner would I want her to grow old gracefully? Yes I would.

  3. My goodness, you’re looking rough Joe!

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